When I look out the window, I simply see what lies outside. I don’t look for something in particular, I just observe and perceive what is before my eyes. I see my surroundings without judgment. I take note whether it is sunny outside or rainy. I may see a person, or an animal. I see freely. I don’t overanalyze.
However, when I look inside the window, I am looking for something. I may not even know exactly what I am looking for, but I know I am looking for something. I see with preconceptions because I am searching to see something I’ve already envisioned in my mind. I may be looking in for a dress to buy window shopping. I may be looking in to see if I want to eat inside this restaurant. I may be looking in the window to buy a puppy.
When I am looking in the window, I am analyzing, judging. When I am looking out the window I am seeing, perceiving.
What do we see when we meet one another? Are we looking inside the soul as we look inside the window, or do we look outside the soul to understand who this person is and simply see without judgment, just as we look outside the window?
When we look inside the soul of another, we look for the qualities that we want to see. We look for the qualities that our minds have already influenced us to find. We look, ready to judge based on the things that we are looking to see.
Yet, we forget to look outside the soul first to truly understand. What can we see outside the soul that makes this person who they are? What does this person’s background, experiences, tell us about the inside? What can we see freely, and objectively before we judge what is on the inside?